Comments on: memories http://www.prairiepoint.net/journal/2004/08/29/memories/ Gardening, rural life, nature and general observations from a west Texas perspective. Mon, 13 Oct 2008 14:12:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Shelley http://www.prairiepoint.net/journal/2004/08/29/memories/#comment-2053 Shelley Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.prairiepoint.net/journal/2004/08/29/memories/#comment-2053 Bill, my father just moved into assisted living. With his health and his age, almost 94, we had no other options. But the place is smaller, he has his own studio apartment with a microwave and small fridge. More importantly, he's with caregivers who know how to connect the older with their surroundings. And my Dad is champion at not being outgoing and not being adaptable. The key for him was when he fell getting out of bed, and he was able to pull the string that connects to the emergency system and get help immediately. He now actually feels secure enough to start an exercise program -- well, walking around outside. I can hear you and know what you're saying -- but this doesn't have to be a 'bad' thing. Email if you want more details. Take care, it will work out. Bill, my father just moved into assisted living. With his health and his age, almost 94, we had no other options.

But the place is smaller, he has his own studio apartment with a microwave and small fridge. More importantly, he’s with caregivers who know how to connect the older with their surroundings.

And my Dad is champion at not being outgoing and not being adaptable. The key for him was when he fell getting out of bed, and he was able to pull the string that connects to the emergency system and get help immediately. He now actually feels secure enough to start an exercise program — well, walking around outside.

I can hear you and know what you’re saying — but this doesn’t have to be a ‘bad’ thing. Email if you want more details.

Take care, it will work out.

]]> By: mary lou http://www.prairiepoint.net/journal/2004/08/29/memories/#comment-2054 mary lou Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.prairiepoint.net/journal/2004/08/29/memories/#comment-2054 I'm sure your Father is happier to be home now too. When part of a couple causes both parties to give up their home it is doubly hard. Have you had your Mom treated for Depression? Tested for Altzheimer's? Do not let your sister feel guilty for not being able to make it. She tried, and NO ONE but the caregiver knows how hard it is. ( been there) I’m sure your Father is happier to be home now too. When part of a couple causes both parties to give up their home it is doubly hard. Have you had your Mom treated for Depression? Tested for Altzheimer’s?

Do not let your sister feel guilty for not being able to make it. She tried, and NO ONE but the caregiver knows how hard it is. ( been there)

]]> By: Dottie http://www.prairiepoint.net/journal/2004/08/29/memories/#comment-2055 Dottie Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.prairiepoint.net/journal/2004/08/29/memories/#comment-2055 I feel for you, Bill.........My Dad (88yrs) & his second wife, Peg, are both rapidly failing in health. They have both become bitter, depressed & resentful old people. They live with Peg's son in Maine. My brothers, sister & I have discussed many times about what we shall have to do about Dad if Peg dies before he does as we don't think it would be right for Peg's son to care for Dad. He refuses to discuss his future with us in the event of Peg's death. I know he would not be happy here with me in Missouri or with my sister in Pennsylvania......I don't even think I could take him as I still work fulltime & he requires care 24/7.........I know he would want to stay in New England........Everytime there is a health crises with either one of them, we have many phone calls between us, yet nothing is ever accomplished........It is so hard to figure what will be the right thing to do when the time comes.......I hope you will be able to come to some conclusion that will be right for all involved............ I feel for you, Bill………My Dad (88yrs) & his second wife, Peg, are both rapidly failing in health. They have both become bitter, depressed & resentful old people. They live with Peg’s son in Maine. My brothers, sister & I have discussed many times about what we shall have to do about Dad if Peg dies before he does as we don’t think it would be right for Peg’s son to care for Dad. He refuses to discuss his future with us in the event of Peg’s death. I know he would not be happy here with me in Missouri or with my sister in Pennsylvania……I don’t even think I could take him as I still work fulltime & he requires care 24/7………I know he would want to stay in New England……..Everytime there is a health crises with either one of them, we have many phone calls between us, yet nothing is ever accomplished……..It is so hard to figure what will be the right thing to do when the time comes…….I hope you will be able to come to some conclusion that will be right for all involved…………

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